Welcome.  No doubt, relationships stir up a lot in all of us and inviting a third person into the mix can feel like a relief or very scary or a little of both.  I work to make you each feel comfortable first and formost so we can team well in helping you get what you want.  My style is dynamic and down to earth. 

Couples I typically see ;      

• Get stuck in the same argument over and over again and want help learning how to get unstuck.
• Are going through some big life events (birth of a child, move, marriage, loss of job, infidelity) that are putting a strain on the relationship and need help making the transition.
• Find themselves no longer wanting to accept being bored, angry or lacking sexual and emotional intimacey and are able to define what they want and make it happen.
• May have been apprehensive, at first, to come to talk with a therapist but find my style a good match.

Contact me at 415-520-5567 or traci@traciruble.com for a 30 minute free consultation in person or by phone to answer your questions so you both feel comfortable about taking the next step.

I work in a very active way with couples to set some clear goals for therapy, work at a pace that feels safe and doable, and help partners learn how to connect in new ways that get to the root of the issues they are dealing with. 

My job is to help you; get clear on what kind of relationship you want, see your patterns and, where helpful, address things from your past that make getting what you want hard, and work from a set of goals you set for yourselves each week to achieve the relationship you say you want.   As part of this process you will; improve the quality of your communication, increase your ability to tolerate feelings, improve your ability to make decisions and handle change together, learn to be more flexible about your own and your partner’s humanness and ultimately deepen your intimacy and fun. 

I highly recommend this article from Drs Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson called How to Get the Most from Couples Therapy.  I suggest this reading in preparation for first sessions.  http://www.couplesinstitute.com/professional/artman/publish/article_26.shtml

Sessions are offered during the week including evenings and Saturdays.  I am a registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern #48258 with six years of counseling experience and fourteen years of my own  personal growth training .  Because, I work as an Intern under the supervision of Michael Griffith, MFT #28859, I can offer my services at a lower fee.  My fees are $85 per couples session.

Contact me at: 415-520-5567 or traci@traciruble.com