“If you’ve ever felt like everyone else on Facebook seems to be having more fun than you, well, you’re not alone, according to a new study by Utah Valley University sociologists Hui-Tzu Grace Chou and Nicholas Edge, published in an academic journal called Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking.” Erik Sass. Read more about this and other research on Facebook and Social Media impacts on mental health. It is fascinating how depressing using these tools can be if we don’t use them wisely. Our negative self beliefs take over the mouse and keyboard and run the show and they don’t have to with just a few simple steps.
First, what personal life stories make you feel rejected by Facebook – how do they show up online?
If you find yourself feeling rejected by Facebook here are some strategies to work with yourself with kindness.
7. Kishi Fuller, MFT reminded me, as we discussed Facebook and mental health, that if you truly do miss someone, nothing replaces that human to human connection. Pick up the phone and call them directly. Facebook is an additional way to build community, not a replacement for connection and friendship.
|“I am loveable just as I am!”|
The metaphor I like to use to embody all these tips in a really simple way when you are on Facebook is imagine you are Hula Hooping. On occasion you bump up against other dancing folks too in playful or careful ways. When you Hula, to keep it going, you can go out and connect with others but you always have to be paying attention to you and your own fun to keep it going. You can’t get overly concerned about others or become self-conscious or the Hula Hoop will fall. It’s another take on the “dancing to your own drum” idea. Not everyone is going to like you and, even so, it has no bearing on your lovability and belonging.