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Relationships, Psychology & Being Human
Essays on love, conflict, connection, identity, community, and the strange business of being human.
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Breaking Up: How to End a Relationship When Your Partner Didn't See It Coming
You don't need your partner's permission to leave, but how you leave still matters. A couples therapist's guide to breaking up with care and honesty.
Are You Using Therapy to Emotionally Manipulate Your Partner?
If therapy is making you more articulate at controlling someone rather than more courageous at feeling with them, you’ve turned healing into a weapon. This piece is a gentle call in to check yourself on this behavior.
Your Family Holiday SOS Plan: This Year Can Be Better
New and unusual insights and actionable things you can do this year to make hanging out with your family better.
A Note About How I Write
I write from more than 20 years of clinical experience, ongoing professional study, and a fairly relentless curiosity about why humans do what we do.
I use AI as a thinking and writing partner to research, chase ideas, develop drafts, and edit. Then I question it, fact-check it, rewrite it, and make the final piece mine. The clinical thinking and conclusions here are my own.
Any clinical stories are composites drawn from patterns across many years of practice, with details changed to protect confidentiality.
The fine print: This blog is for education and reflection, not individualized psychotherapy, mental health care, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
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